In keeping with the reality themed “Things I’m thankful for” this day’s thankfulness is for something I have yet to receive – my wife. I am thankful I am not married yet. I am thankful that one day she and I will be, unless I hear directly from God, walking down the aisle (with walkers, canes and AARP cards if need be) after exchanging our vows.
Why am I happy I’m single? Because I thought I was ready up to now. I thought I understood what marriage was – wine, roses, occasional arguments (followed by make-up… well, nookie) and a sense of togetherness that would make Snow White and Prince Charming jealous.
I know now that I’ll never be fully ready. It’s always going to be a challenge, full of moments that take my breath away and moments that make me wonder what the heck I was thinking. Moments that are perfect and moments that are far, far from perfect. Some days I’ll get it all right – I’ll notice the new haircut, the nails, the shoes and I’ll know there is no correct answer to ‘Does this make me look fat?’ and other days I’ll answer that question and sleep on the couch for the next few nights.
So I’m thankful that I’m single right now. Because it’s given me time to realize that I’ll never be ready – and only through prayer and hard work can I ever be remotely close.
- For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. – Jeremiah 29:11